Passion and Paper Tigers


Fear preys on passion, but it is a paper tiger. ~Vautaw

I received a check for $25 today from the Poetry Society of Indiana for winning 1st place in the Linda Bannon Memorial Category with a poem I wrote specifically for the contest called, “Overflow“.

In my mind, I wielded the check like a sword to shred the paper tiger that has pursued me since the day I dared to publish my first word. Apparently, it worked, but I know a legion of paper tigers exist for every word I dare to share.

I am taking advantage of this momentary victory and boost of confidence by dreaming big, writing like I am already famous, and visualizing my name among the greatest writers of all time: Hemingway, Vonnegut, Faulkner, Joyce, Shakespeare, Tolstoy, Eliot, Bronte, Woolf, Plath, Atwood, Angelou, Christie, Cartland, Steel, Vautaw…

That last one is me, one of my pseudonyms, fits right in doesn’t it?!

Whew, I got that out before the next paper tiger spotted me and fueled my inner critic with enough adrenaline to make me want to escape through the open tab to check my email or scroll social media… anything to avoid the thoughts of inadequacy, of not being good enough to even think of being in the same sentence as the “greats” or “real” writers, of dramatic despair of dying with my words and stories left unsaid…

But, wait, I have my sword. I may not even cash the check. I may post it on my vision board as a reminder of an Amelia Earhart quote, “Fears are just paper tigers“. So, write to your heart’s content. Write the words that you want to share with the world. Write the stories that make your soul shine.

En Garde!



You’re Fired (26) A young man got fired at my day job recently. It was his first “real” job. I’m sure he felt defeated, but if I could have talked to him, this is what I would have said…

I knew from the moment I heard your celebrity name and saw your chiseled face that your light shines too bright for this solemn place. You are young, full of life and energy – not yet resigned to a life of mediocrity in a dead-end job where you cross off the days on your wall calendar counting days until your sentence ends and wish your week away along side TGIF co-workers who long ago abandoned their dreams and think this is as good as it gets, in this life anyway.

Learn the lessons from your brief time here because the test will come again and again. There will be many failures along the winding road that leads to where you are meant to be, where you thrive, where you feel you belong, where you make a positive difference in the world. Use every perceived failure as a stepping stone to success.

Take it from someone with enough regrets to fill the Grand Canyon because she settled for “steady” pay and sub-par benefits while her dreams passed by like clouds in the sky…

Go ahead and let the door hit you on the way out as a reminder to never settle for a life of mediocrity, but instead to do the things that light up your soul. Consider yourself blessed.

Write on.

Welcome to Oz (23)

The Wizard of Oz is my favorite movie. When I was a kid, I loved the technicolor and the idea of getting swept up in a storm to visit a magical place. As an adult, I appreciate the subtle message of the movie and I see it in action every day.

Many of us are looking to the great and powerful OZ, whoever that may be, to help us achieve our dreams when the ability to make it happen resides within us. We just have to believe in ourselves as much as we believe in Oz. After all, Oz turned out to be human with just as many insecurities and flaws as the rest of us.

So click your heals and skip along the adventurous, sometimes scary, road to make whatever it is you are searching for in someone else come alive in you!

Write on.


Honorable Mention


“There is no dishonor in honorable mention.” ~ Mike Rothman

There was a time when honorable mention felt like losing to me…

“If she can’t win, she doesn’t want to play.” My cousin said those words about me when I was ten years old or so and a group of us kids were playing red rover or some similar game that I decided I didn’t want to play for reasons I don’t even remember. My cousin continued his berating, “It has to be her way or not at all.” He was talking to them about me right in front of me. I was furious, stomped back into the house and slammed the screen door to make the point that I was mad which probably just confirmed his point to the group. My cousin’s biting words stayed with me all these years. I think about it from time to time. Am I really that rigid that I don’t want to play if I can’t win? There have been many times in my life when I felt like that was true. I have never been into sports perhaps because I know I can’t win without training and I have no desire to train for any athletic event, not even hippity-hop when I was in the fourth grade. I was always last to get picked for the team and I really didn’t care. I would rather be sitting by myself somewhere coloring or reading a book.

Writing is a different story, sort of. I want to the be the best, do my best, but often feel like I fall short which used to prevent me from entering writing contests or attending big writer conventions where MFAs and bestselling authors abound. I remember the first time I attended the Midwest Writers Conference. I felt so inferior after coming home from that event. It took me months to get beyond my self-imposed limitations of thinking what makes me believe I have a chance of getting published when there are so many great writers who are struggling. Thank goodness self-publishing became popular and easily accessible or I would have probably never pursued publishing my writing.

Once I self-published, it was like breaking through an invisible barrier. Suddenly, I could say I was a published author. I began to see myself as a writer. I continued to study, read and write, becoming a little more confident with each poem and story I wrote. I began to enter writing contests, only a few that meant something to me. I remember the first time I won a writing contest, it felt like I won an Olympic gold metal. All I won was some random poster from the 70’s that became ashes along with all my journals, poems, stories and books when my house burned down a couple years ago.

After the fire, I got a new perspective about what is really important in life. I no longer wish to accumulate things. I would rather accumulate memories. I no longer write to “win” a contest or get published. I write to say what I feel I have to release into the world. If it resonates with someone, that is wonderful. I love when that happens both as a writer and a reader. But, I’m no longer in competition for the coveted “best-seller” title or winning any awards. I write because it is who I am and what I have to do to quiet the voices in my head. I write because I love the written word. Passionately.

When I got an honorable mention at the recent Mounds State Park Poetry contest, I felt that twinge of “first place” memory and smiled inside because I am in the game now, playing, having fun, right along with all the other writers who submit their art for something that is important to them.

Being willing to step outside your comfort zone and writing from your heart, that’s what makes you a winner!

Write on.

Kathy G


Shiny Object Syndrome

objectsFOCUS – Follow One Course Until Successful

If I had to name one thing that has contributed to my lack of success with the hundreds of ideas I have had over the years, I would have to say it is shiny object sydrome! I get an idea, whether it is for a book or a business, then I get super excited about it, spend hours, sometimes days finding the perfect domain name, then create a website on WordPress or Wix, make few blog posts, then cue the wantwawa music… get distracted and move on to the next bright idea. I have done this so many times that it’s pretty much an inside joke among my family. I don’t get offended anymore. I just bury myself in the minutiae of my day and wonder why I am not making the progress I feel I should be making or living up to my full potential. But, a few things have happened lately that has made me take a hard look at what I am doing and what I need to do to have the success I seek.

First, I have listened to a couple podcasts about people who were as down on their luck as they could get and managed to turn their life around to astounding success. This has inspired me, motivated me and made me ask myself if these ex-cons and former junkies can turn their life around and make millions when they have only been at it a couple years and I have been doing this since the 80’s, what is going on? What is holding you back? Will your legacy be you accomplished none of your dreams because you couldn’t stay focused on one thing or stick with it long enough to experience success? That’s some tough love I’m gifting myself.

I read a blog yesterday from a fellow John Maxwell Team member who has started an online business called New Inceptions. I love an anology he used about burners on a stove. I only use the two front burners on my stove. I rarely use the back burners. Reading JC’s article in addition to listening to the podcasts about the guys who turned their life around plus watching Brendon Burchard videos and being on Pat Flynn’s Smart Passive Income forum has got me fired up and focused to the point that I am ready to turn on those front burners and cook up some success!

On my two front burners will be my infused water project and writing. That is it for this year! I think I can. I think I can. As my mentor, Mike Dooley says, “Thoughts become things.” I have learned from the best, now it’s time to put it into action. Consistently!

Kathy G

Death Wish Coffee


I will forever think of the phrase “Death Wish” in a different way from now on. I used to think of death wish as a way someone wished to die. For example, someone who drives a hundred miles an hour on a 35 MPH curvy road must have a death wish to die in a car wreck. Since hearing about the awesome contest Intuit QuickBooks had for small businesses to compete to win a commercial played during the Super Bowl worth an estimated five million dollars, I now think of Death Wish as something all of us aspiring entrepreneurs dream of, which is marketing that adds value while promoting our business, products or service. WestJet also does value-added marketing with their Christmas Miracle program.  It both cases it is inspiring!

As a writer who also happens to be passionate about the business side of writing and a certified Guerrilla Marketing Coach, I am always on the lookout for examples of what the late great Jay Conrad Levinson referred to as “Fusion Marketing.” What Intuit did is a brilliant example. Not only does Intuit get exposure as the sponsor and help promote a small business, they create goodwill in the world that sets an example for other businesses to follow and gets the wheels spinning for us creative entrepreneurs to think of ways to fuse our marketing efforts. Bravo Intuit!

Write on.

Kathy G

Choreographed Success

grease live

I tuned in the other day just as the cast from Grease Live was doing their curtain call. I was sorry I missed it and happy when I found out that I can watch the replay on Fox Now. I think the idea of performing live on TV is poetic. I have always enjoyed live theatre, but I was in awe when I saw a behind the scenes video of the associate director Carrie Havel working magic by capturing the rhythm and vibe of the performance. The video is only a few minutes long, but she did this for the entire three hour performance!

What Carrie did to bring the performance to life for TV viewers reminds me a lot of what it takes to accomplish any big goal. What people often see is the polished version of our efforts. When someone reads a book, they don’t see all the drafts, editing, formatting, and promotion that went on behind the scenes to bring the book to life. The same goes for podcasts, vlogs, paintings, songs, and running a business. We are good at not breaking the fourth wall.

I like to peek behind the curtains and see what it really takes to succeed because that puts it all in perspective. The long nights, staying home working on your project while everyone else goes out, putting the time in it takes to be successful. None of it happens overnight like it seems, but if you are dedicated and determined, which some people call “lucky” you get in a groove and make it happen!

Write on.

Kathy G


The Lottery Exercise 


What would you do if you won the lottery? Would you build your dream house, go on a cruise around the world, donate to your favorite charities…

I love it when the lottery jackpot gets high because it gets people talking about their dreams out loud and thinking about the infinite possibilities that life can bring. It is in that space of believing in the impossible that the possible happens.

Sure, many dismiss it as a pipe dream, but what if you hang onto that thought of possibility for a moment and see where it takes you… What would you do with all your free time if you didn’t have to work? Would you keep doing what you are doing now? If not, what would you do? Would you write, travel, spend time with your family, volunteer… The answer to “What would do if you won the lottery” is a key that opens the door to happiness.

I started this lottery exercise years ago before I realized the power that it has to help turn dreams into reality. I said out loud what I would do if I won the lottery. Then I wrote it down. One of the things that I said out loud and put on my list was to go to Hawaii. Of course I thought it was way too expensive to do if I didn’t win the lottery or come into some big inheritance. But, “Go to Hawaii” stuck with me. I posted pictures of Hawaii on my vision board. Every time the lottery hype came up, go to Hawaii was on my list. I started talking about it more often. Eventually, it changed from “If I won the lottery I would go to Hawaii” to “I want to go to Hawaii” to “I am going to Hawaii.”

A few years after doing the lottery exercise, I decided that I wanted to go to Hawaii for my 25th wedding anniversary and that is when it changed from being an impossible dream to a goal. I researched the different islands in Hawaii, flights, car rentals, hotel accommodations…

Guess where I was for my 25th anniversary? Nope, it wasn’t Hawaii, I don’t even remember what I did for my 25th anniversary, but on my 30th anniversary, I went to the bottom of the Pacific ocean in a submarine, hiked in lush rain forests, checked out sugar cane fields, drank mai tai’s and ate fresh Hawaiian gold pineapples at a luau, and rode in a yellow Mustang convertible with the top down on Hana Road… in Maui, Hawaii!

So, now I let my imagination run wild when the lottery jackpot gets to astronomical amounts like it is now because I know what you think about consistently, you will bring about eventually.

Can you imagine becoming a billionaire overnight. What would you do?

Write on.

Kathy G

Happy New Year (15)

Happy New Year WriterKat friends! Did you include writing in your new year resolution plans? I did. I have several writing projects in store for 2016…

January 2016
My memoir Looking for Lucky launches in soft cover. The Kindle ebook version is available this month for FREE! It was actually a draft that I had to upload by the deadline in order to continue selling on the Kindle Select platform. That is a very effective way of getting past writer’s block and procrastination! A portion of the proceeds from this book will be donated to organizations that help runaways and homeless kids.

April 2016
Break The Cycle Volume III: Recovery – This will be the last in the Break The Cycle of abuse anthology series. Submissions are accepted through the end of January 2016, then I will get to work on putting it together for publication. If you are interested in contributing poems or short stories, please use the submission form at

July 2016
Guerrilla Book Marketing – I am also a certified Guerrilla Marketing Coach who has helped other writers promote their books. In this book, I will share some fun and free ways to sell more books!

November 2016
A top secret personal development book. Be sure to subscribe to my email list to be the first to know the juicy details!

Some of my writing projects for this year aren’t technically writing, rather the business side of writing. Writing books is great but isn’t the point to get people to read the books that you write and hopefully, pay a few bills or support your favorite causes! How do we make that happen? There are a zillion ways and I plan to tap into some fun and effective ways to market and sell books this year starting with a local authors meetup this Saturday, January 9, 2016 from 10:30 a.m. – 12:30 p.m. at the Gas City library. If you are an author or aspiring author who is interested in meeting other writers and picking their brain about how they market their books, in addition to learning about some exciting upcoming opportunities and events for writers, you are invited to join us!

Write on,

Kathy G

P.S. Check out Hoosier Authors to learn about the new Indiana poet laureate! 

Follow A Dream (8)

“Do not let your fears stop you. Let your dreams drive you.” ~ Jay Blake

We find motivation and inspiration in the most unlikely places sometimes. I was reading the company newsletter of my day job. One of the articles mentioned that they are sponsoring an NHRA race car. On the front of the race car I noticed in big bold letters FOLLOW A That name drew me right in. I had to see what it was about, so I clicked on the link and got my motivation and inspiration for the day!

Behind FAD is Jay Blake, a guy who had his face blown off in an industrial accident. Miracously he survived, but lost three of the five senses we have to make our way through our world. He could have easily sat around depressed for the rest of his life, but instead he chose to overcome the overwhelming obstacles and not only survive, but thrive by living his dream of leading a race team!

I love stories like this and wish there was a channel on TV that featured stories like this 24/7 instead of doom and gloom, murder, violence and drama that fills the minds of those who are often already depressed and impressionable. I really belive that positive stories like this lift people up and take them to a higher plane – one where you believe you can achieve anything!

I hope you read about Jay, get motivated to pursue what may seem impossible, and spread the inspiration in your own unique way.

Write on.